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Avoiding stress with homework - 8 tips for parents

Fighting over homework - what parents don't know this? The topic of homework causes discussions and stress in many families. These 8 tips can help to make homework easier for you and your children.

The most important rule for parents: You are not responsible for your children's homework. How you can approach this topic in a relaxed manner, you can also read in the scoyolo podcast episode #10.

Tip 1: Joint time management

In principle, homework should not be postponed too long, but every child has a different rhythm. Some prefer to do their homework right away, according to the motto "first the work, then the pleasure" and have just quickly worked off the "annoying" part. Other children first need a break to catch their breath and gather strength for the next concentration unit.

However, it is advisable for all children to eat together after school. Some of them also need some time to relax with games or reading after school. Depending on how you handle it: It is also important that the afternoon keep fit under stress and there's too much on the menu.

Too many appointments right after doing homework, such as a piano lesson or soccer training, can also stress children. Time pressure can then affect your child's performance. Therefore: You know your child best. Therefore, make sure together that for everyone sufficient relaxation time is also available during the week.

Tip 2: Positive feedback

One of the most important criteria for a optimal learning success is the positive feedback. Children not only react unconsciously very strongly to it, they are more motivated and achieve greater learning success. It also helps to lift the general mood towards homework.

Mistakes can be considered a good learning experience. Parents can encourage their children there to continue practicing and not to give up on a difficult task. Even with patient and relaxed reactions to mistakes you make your child feel good.

Tip 3: Create a suitable learning environment

A good learning environment is essential for the concentration of your children. Here you should make sure that mobile phones have no place when doing homework. Some children can also learn better in a tidy environment.

The workplace should be quiet, a running television or playing siblings in the background invite you to digress. Another factor that is often underestimated is the chair: on an armchair, for example, it is difficult to adopt an upright sitting posture. But this helps your child's ability to concentrate and signals a "working mode".

Tip 4: Take short breaks

The ability to concentrate is particularly limited in younger children. Therefore it is important, to take regular breaks. Many short breaks of 5-10 minutes are more conducive than one long one.

During this time you can eat fruit, drink water or play a short card game, fresh air is also helpful. Afterwards it learns better immediately. It is important that the mobile phone does not play a role during the learning breaks either.

Tip 5: Working materials

One factor that makes homework so much more enjoyable are the working materials. Whether it's index cards in your child's favourite colour, a pencil with your favourite animal on it, or a pad with flowers on the cover, these things help make homework less tedious.

The pencil case should also always be tidy and well equipped - so your child is not distracted by constant searching.

Tip 6: Support, but do not do homework

In some situations, parents are almost tempted to give children to reveal the solutions by way of exception. However, this procedure sends the wrong signals. Your child may feel that he or she is working too slowly and is not able to come up with the solution on his or her own.

Many children then switch off at some point and unconsciously approach each new task with the attitude "I can't do it anyway" without having tried it. Or, in case of doubt, they rely on the support of their parents. But parents are not always there to help in the class test or rehearsal.

Query vocabulary, point out sources where the child might find suitable solutions or have a text read aloud - with these possibilities you can help your child in the long term. And the stress that you are responsible for finding the right solution also falls off you as parents.

Tip 7: Rewards

Rewards can also help your child to do their homework remains motivated. It is important to remember that one hour of work is one hour of work for a child - regardless of whether the result is wrong or right. Here, for example, the working method could be rewarded.

Has my child sat down several times without being asked to do homework? Does he or she try to stay focused? A small reward would be, for example, your child's favorite food at the next meal.

Tip 8: Leave the topic of homework alone

The topic of homework occupies a large place in the everyday life of a family. This makes it all the more important to let the topic of homework be good for once. Let yourself and your children have one day a week (for example Saturday) where the subject of school is not mentioned and gives the kids a break from the stress of the week. The next day there is still enough time to discuss everything important - and your children's tank is full again.

This article is a guest contribution from scoyo.


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