Are you tired of a stressful life? Do you want to go through life happy, healthy and free? Then this article is just right for you.
Folkloric is spoken of Stress spoken when we are busy at work, rushing from A to B, or simply overwhelmed with tasks. However, we are stressed much more often than we think.
Maybe you know how sometimes you just get mad when your partner says or does something specific? Someone criticizes you and you feel frozen and don't know what to say or do? Or you are worried about your future, maybe you just want to drop everything in your life and just run away?
These are also moments of stress in which very elementary stress reactions are triggered in us. One can experience the hormone increase of adrenalin and cortisol in our body, there are physiological changes like increased heart rate, faster breathing and a typical automatic stress reaction: Fight - Flight - Freeze. And if you think about it, these moments happen quite often in our lives.
Since it is known that much stress is not conducive to our health is, it would make sense to live a more stress-free life and minimize these moments. But how to do this?
How is it that we stress ourselves out in these moments even though there is no real danger?
Which moments trigger stress in you depends entirely on you. Because what your brain has stored as a stress trigger is defined by your DNA and your learned connections in the brain. And that ranges from a tiger standing in front of you to a criticism that you hear.
"The cause of stress lies in the attitude of each individual"
As the quote from Dalai Lama so beautifully says, stress is a totally individual experience. What represents the individual component here is one's own evaluation of the situation.
A rough distinction is made between the following stress triggers:
- external circumstances (noises, Noise)
- negative feelings (fear)
- Words of a person (criticism or reproaches)
- our thoughts (Worry)
- Perceptions (of a bad situation, e.g. a horror movie)
- Memories (of stressful experiences)
One then reacts to this trigger. Of course, the own evaluation is important here, because for one person a noise may trigger stress, for another not. The valuation is an automated process, certain "circuits" are activated in our brain that automatically put us in a state of stress.
How did these stress patterns form?
The reason for our valuation lies in our neuronal patterns in the brain. They are created by our genes and our experiences.
As a small child or as a baby we perceive the world completely unfiltered. Everything we see and hear goes unfiltered into our subconscious and builds up our patterns there, which determine our later life.
A pattern could be for example: Criticism is a threat, maybe I won't be loved anymore and I will be alone. Thus, your brain has categorized criticism as "danger." Similar to the cave man's tiger, which causes our primal stress response. Your tiger here is only your fear of being alone, which is caused by criticism.
And so you have a lot of these patterns and interconnections in your brain. You formed that way at a very early age. There are also some of these patterns that you already carry with you in your DNA, that you have inherited from ancestors.
What can we do about it now?
The good news is, we can uncover these mental programs that run like software in our brains, and reprogram. For this you simply need some time and motivation, or a good coach, with whom this can often go a little faster.
Step 1: Identify your stress triggers
First, it's important to identify which moments, situations and thoughts are stressing you out. Just think about the situations in which you have had a stressful moment lately. sensation of unease you felt. Maybe a pull in your stomach, maybe your heart racing. And what did you not like in this situation? What happened? Let's take as an example a situation where your boss criticized you.
Step 2: Discover your inner patterns
Now it's important to understand why these situations stress you out. After all, not everyone feels this way. To do this, think about everything you think about this situation. To stay with our example, these might be phrases like, "If you're criticized, then you're bad....if you're bad, then nobody likes you anymore....if nobody likes you anymore, eventually you'll be all alone."
This is your subconscious programming
Step 3: Reprogram yourself
Once you have identified your patterns and programs, you can rewrite them. This needs again something Endurance and many repetitions. Because like a groove in a record that plays the same "tune" over and over again, you have these deep neural patterns. And to create a new pattern, a new groove, takes a lot of practice.
- Recite your new program many times. For example, you can repeat it to yourself as often as you can: "I am good the way I am and I am loved," or a phrase that is appropriate for your program.
- Writing down new beliefs or speaking them on tape
- Personally, I love to go a notch deeper and directly to get in touch with the subconscious. This works really well in a deep relaxation situation, like a deep Meditationtrance or shortly before falling asleep. There, these new patterns go directly into our subconscious and we anchor them there a little faster.
And this is how you can program yourself your new, stress-free life and take the first step towards a happy and healthy life.
This article is a guest contribution from Kristina von Fuchs
I am a Mindful Happiness & Health Coach and help people create a happy and healthy life for themselves. For me, each of us has an inner diamond, an inner treasure that needs to be discovered. It is often hidden by fears, worries and experiences. But if we discover it, then we can create true happiness and health from within.
I support people in 1:1 coaching sessions and with my podcast "Diamond You", in which there are regular inputs on the topic of happiness and health, in each case illuminated from the scientific and spiritual side.