What triggers stress?
We live in fast-moving times. We want to get the best for ourselves, be it at work, at university, in our hobbies, in Relationship to our partner, our Familyour friends and colleagues etc. All well and good, but what goes along with it: Yes, we are STRESSED.
The term stress has become an integral part of our vocabulary and we use this word every day in our statements: "Wow, it's so stressful right now, I'm afraid I can't make it today." "My goodness, what was that stress at work again!" We humans are trimmed for Perfection and it is quite normal to encounter stressful situations in this way.
But why do we see stress as something negative?
Which stress type am I?
Let's start by making it clear what type of stress you are. First of all, as a little side info: There are times when I am type 3 without any ifs and buts. 😉
Type 1: The good stress type
He sees Stress as a hurdle that he can master, and enjoys facing it.
Type 2: The bad stress type
He sees Stress as an unsolvable problem that's gonna wear him down in the long run.
Type 3: The pitiable stress type
This guy's always down because he's always trying to avoid stress. So if something becomes stressful, it needs to be avoided. If something goes wrong, he's got a reason to feel bad. Questions like "How are you feeling?" should be avoided in his presence if possible, and if so, you can only expect one answer: "What has to be, has to be." There's one aspect this pitiful stress guy forgets: Life is full of challenges and stress cannot be avoided.
A slightly different stress test
- Take a firm stand. Your legs are set shoulder-wide.
- Stretch out your right arm and index finger in front of your head and say "Hello index finger".
- Now slowly rotate your torso to the right around your own body axis as far as possible and remember approximately the point where your index finger is pointing. Your legs do not move.
- Turn back to the left to the starting position.
- Now close your eyes and now imagine this movement once again in your mind. Imagine how you manage to rotate 5cm, 10cm, 15cm, 20cm further than before and then open your eyes again.
- Now stretch out your arm and forefinger again and make this movement again.
And? Actually got further than the first try?
Why does it work?
One could now use various motivation theories to explain this progress, but there is a very simple explanation: one has simply stretched oneself forward by the first time.
So what do we take from this and what does this have to do with stress?
You can go to your limits, test them and do this more often to achieve a training effect. This means that it is good to feel stress, because we learn from it and thus come closer to our goals. As in sports, we are allowed to train stress again and again in order to be able to deal with it better. In other words: we go to the maximum, then take a break, adapt and then go on again and try to reach a new maximum again.
We're making ourselves more and more more resilient to the most diverse stress situations. Think back to your school days, how did it feel to write the first tests? Most of them were probably very stressed because you learned a lot for it and were afraid to forget anything etc. But at some point it became routine and we got more and more used to the stress situation exam.
Think about who your role model or idol is. Who do you see as the achievers? Do you think these people had a straight uphill bend on their way to success? No, of course not, their success also originated from a zigzag curve with ups & downs. Only the height of the ups increased continuously!
What causes burnout?
Yes, Burnouts are becoming more and more frequent in our society and should not be underestimated, but the explanation for this phenomenon is basically very simple: people who suffer burnout skip the break after "going to his limits" and become more and more exhausted each time. It is important to take your time afterwards and give your body and mind a rest. If the break is too long and you let yourself be dragged too long after a stressful situation, there is no effect and you feel the stress as equally stressful every time.
Happiness hormones: That is why we feel good
The following happiness hormones are decisive for us to decide again and again to put ourselves in stressful situations. They are also called the spinning top of happiness.
It ensures that we set ourselves a goal and want to achieve it.
It is poured out when we have reached our goal and triggers feelings like "Yes, I did it" and "I have earned this".
According to the motto "Now I enjoy this, now I take a break" it lets us become more relaxed and stabilizes our psyche. However, we should be aware that this is a cycle, i.e. there is no endorphin release without prior dopamine release, for example.
How can I strengthen my resilience?
Resilience is not something that is inborn, but can be learned. Various tools and exercises can help you to develop more resilience. Would you like to learn more about them?
Then I invite you very warmly to my Resilience Course on!
My appeal to you
Next time you feel the feeling of stress again, take a bird's eye view for a moment and ask yourself the question: Does this stress have a long-term meaning? In most cases the answer will be NO. Does it have an important meaning in the future? Then there are two possibilities: If the stress has a long-term positive meaning, then it is worth taking on this challenge(s) and facing the stress anyway.
If a long-term negative meaning is foreseeable, then one should get to the bottom of the matter. Most of the time, the problem lies precisely in the long term, i.e. you have a job that doesn't suit you, a relationship that doesn't work or generally a life setting that doesn't suit you. The important thing then is not to push the stress away but to bring about a change.
Let's be grateful together for the many opportunities we have to improve ourselves in different areas and to see stress as the key to our development. 😊
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This article is a guest contribution from Jacqueline Keller.
I am a vocation coach and train-the-trainer (for Rock Your Life, among others), seminar leader and business psychologist (Master of Advanced Studies). I have been able to accompany more than 1000 people in workshops, coachings and retreats on the topic of resilience, mindfulness or vocation. I am still fascinated by these topics and would like to spread this knowledge and tools.
I'm also a traveler, scuba junkie and piano lover. I am filled with joy of life, curiosity and the passion to develop myself.